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CRYING BABY – REASONS

Wednesday, February 3rd, 2010

Introduction:

Crying is a normal event in the lives of all babies.When a baby comes out of the woomb the first thing to do is crying.By the first cry he will take some air in to the lungs for the first time in their life.After delivery if the baby doesnot cry then it should be initiated by slightly pinching or gently strocking the feet.From this it is clear that the healthy baby should cry and it is a normal physiological event ,still some times it can upset the mother or family members.

We all know that a baby can’t tell his needs or troubles in words. The only way for him to communicate with others is by crying.Babies show some other signs like feet kicking,hand waving and head turning ect.But the best way to take the attention of others is by crying.

Excessive crying may not have a firm definition because the crying habit changes from baby to baby and some babies can be calmed easily but some are difficult to sooth.If crying is distressing for the mother and home nurse it can be called excessive.Many a times baby become quiet by giving breast milk or by carrying with a gentle rocking.Sudden onset of excessive crying means baby is distressed and needs attention.The causes of crying extends from simple reasons to life threatening conditions.Hence crying of a baby should not be ignored.

Most of the time it is difficult to find the cause of the cry .Common causes are discussed here for awareness.

Common reasons for crying:

1,Hunger:–

A hungry baby will cry till he gets the milk. Here the old saying comes true’crying baby gets the milk’.

2,Wetting:–

Urination and defecation causes some discomfort and results in crying till his parts are cleaned and made dry .

3,Company:–

Majority of the kids need somebody near. If they feel lonely they cry.When their favourite doll slips away from the grip they cry for help.

4,Tired:–

When the baby is tired after a journey and unable to sleep just cry simply.They feel tired in uncomfortable sourroundings and due to unhealthy climate.

5,Heat & cold:–

If they feel too hot or too cold they become restless and cry. Child is comfortable in a room with good ventilation.

6,Tight cloathing:–

Tight cloaths especially during warm climate is intolerable for kids.Tight elastic of the the dress can also produce soreness in the hip region.

7,Dark room:–

When the baby wakes up from sleep he needs some dim light.If there is darkness he will disturb the sleep of parents by crying.Ofcourse he will be irritated by strong light resulting in cry.

8,Mosquito:–

Yes,these creatures disturb the sleep by their blood sucking and make the baby to cry.

9,Nasal blocking:–

Child may not be able to sleep when there is a cold and go on crying till the passage is open.

10, Phlegm in throat:–

This also causes difficult breathing resulting in cry.Often a typical sound can be heard with each breath.

11,General aching:–

Generalised body ache with restlessness is seen in flu and prodromal stages of some infectious diseases can result in continuous cry.

12,Habitual cry:—Some babies cry without any real cause ending the parents in agony.Many a times doctor is called for help.

13,Nappy rash:– If a tight and wet nappy is kept for a long time results in this conditon.
Rash can also be due to some allergic reaction to the elastic material of the nappy. When the rash appears it causes soreness and baby become sleepless and cry. All other skin lesions like eczema,ecthyma ,candidiasis ect also causes same problems.

14,Earache:–

Ear infection is common in wet climate.The infection may spread from the throat.Ear infection can result in rupture of ear drum causing discharge of pus.Eareache usually becomes worse at night when lying down.Child will become restless with cry and may not allow you to touch the ear.Some children with earache rub the affected ear frequently.

15,Colic:–

When the baby cry continuously most of us diagnose it as colic.This roblem is still a topic for debate because exact cause for colic is not known and diagnosis is also difficult to confirm.Colic may be associated with rumbling and distention of abdomen.Child often feels better when lying on abdomen.Some children may not allow you to touch the abdomen.If the child cries continuously doctors help is needed.

16,Infections:–

All infections causes some kind of pain or irritation resulting in cry.Infection may be anywhere in the body.Usually it is associated with fever, redness and swelling.

17,Reactions to certain food:–

It is said that one man’s food is another man’s poison. Some food articles can produce some allergic reactions.Allergy is manifested in the form of redness, breathlessness,gastric symptons and continuous cry.

18,Hard stools:–

Constipated babies with hard stools may cry when they get the urge for stool.Some children hesitate to pass stool because of pain .

19,Gastro esophagial reflex:–

Here baby cries with spilling of food after feeding.If this continues it may be due to gastroesophageal reflex.This is due to failure of the lower part of esophagus to close after food causing regurgitation from the stomach.It is difficult to diagnose this condition and can be confirmed by giving antireflex medicines.

20, Dentition:–

During dentition child becomes restless with crying.Often associated with gastric troubles and diarrhoea.

Some rare reasons
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1,Bowel obstruction:–

Bowel obstruction is associated with severe pain and vomiting.Abdomen is distended with rumbling sound.Baby is constipated with absence of flatus.

2,Septicemia:–

Invasion of pathogenic micro organisms in to the blood is called septicemia.Fever is associated with this condition.

3,Torsion of testes in male kids:–

When a male baby cries continuously his scrotum should be examined.Torsion of the testes produce severe pain which will be worse by touching the affected testes.When the testes is pressed upwards pain is releived.If this is not treated properly it can damage the affected testes due to lack of blood supply.

4,Meningitis:–

Initially there may not be fever,hence crying baby with alternate vacant stare and irritability should not be ignored.Fontanel is bulging. Neck rigidity and seizures may appear later.

5,Retention of urine:–

Children with retention of urine will have agonising pain making them restless.

7,Major injuries:–

Major injury to any parts of the body causes pain.Occasionally children will fall while arrying and results in head injury.Head injury is associated with reflex vomiting and convulsions.

The Truth about Lying

Thursday, December 24th, 2009

Honesty and dishonesty are learned at home. Parents are often concerned when their child or adolescent lies.

Young children make up stories and tell tall tales often. This is normal activity because they enjoy hearing stories and composing stories for fun. These young children may blur the distinction between reality and fantasy. This is probably more a result of an active imagination than an attempt to deliberately lie about something.

An older child or adolescent may tell a lie to be interested, such as denial of responsibility or to try and get out of a task or a task. Parents should respond to isolated instances of lying by talking to the young about the importance of truth, honesty and trust.

Some adolescents discover that lying may be considered acceptable in certain situations such as if not a boyfriend or girlfriend the real reasons for breaking up because they don’t want to hurt their feelings. Other adolescents may lie to protect their privacy or to help them feel psychologically separate and independent from their parents.

Parents are the most important models for their children. When the lies of a child or adolescent, parents should take some time to have a serious talk and discuss the difference in the middle make believe and reality, and lying and telling the truth. They should open an honest line of communication to find out exactly why the child chose to tell a lie, and to discuss alternatives to lying. A parent must lead by example and never lie and when caught in a lie, express remorse and sorrow to make a conscious decision to tell a lie. The consequences clear, understandable for lying should be discussed with the child early on.

However, some forms of lying are cause for concern and could indicate an underlying emotional problem. Some children, who know the difference between truth and lies, tell elaborate stories which appear believable. Children or adolescents usually relate these stories with enthusiasm because they receive much attention while telling the lie. Other children or adolescents, who otherwise seem responsible, fall into a repetitive pattern of lying. Often feel that lying is the easiest way to deal with the demands of parents, teachers and friends. These children generally are not trying to be mean or malicious but the repetitive pattern of lying becomes a bad?? No smoking. A serious repetitive pattern of lying should be cause for concern. Consult a professional psychologist for youngsters and children to find out if help is needed.

Art-based Activities

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

A recent report by several independent researchers concludes that participating in the arts strengthens the development of social skills, personal and cognitive. Arts-based programs can improve academic achievement and decrease the tendency toward crime. It helps youth form positive attitudes about themselves and pride of the structure.

Arts programs involve communication, interpretation and understanding of complex symbols, like math and languages. This promotes higher-order analytical skills and abilities of the evaluation and synthesis. Many programs make the child regularly use multiple skills thus making it dynamic and versatile.

The development of imagination, trial and philosophy are fringe benefits of an activity-based art. In comparison with the length of the short 45 minute art classes in school, the extra time allowed in after school activities allows the child to get more involved? This results in more satisfactory opportunities for development of latent capabilities in the child. In turn, the child learns to set high standards of achievement. He understands what sustained focus is and learns that regular practice is the way to excellence.

In the shy or isolated child, the lessons of the theater, speech or drama can be an outlet for pent up emotions. As the drama requires getting into the ’skin’ of another person, the child learns to put words to express emotions and thoughts. These reasons explain the popularity of art-based activities.

How much is too much?

Monday, October 5th, 2009

Should your child go to the football practice 5 days a week? Is 3 days enough? It is common for parents to be somewhat confused when it comes to deciding how much is too concerning after school activities. They argue that since most of the activities are fun (as different from studies), children simply lapped up these classes. But too much of fun can also make a sick child. Here is a simple guide to help you decide how much is too much for your child.

Kindergarten: Your child is just starting to get used to interact and learn discipline. His life outside school must be simple and carefree. One or two classes per week are enough at first. Once the child settles down, looking for more challenging activities as a music program.

Grade 1: One or two activities per week, play dates and visits the courtyard is recommended. Avoid competitive sports activities. The child is still young also have to worry about winning and losing. After the rigors of a full day at school, he or she needs a healthy outlet for pent up energy. Physical activities and noncompetitive sports are best for this age.

Grade 2: Your child is old enough to express opinions on what activities he or she wants. Sports, skating, swimming or computers – direct it toward things he likes. Many children begin lessons on a musical instrument around this age. But your child does not prohibit anyone?? N ‘time’ alone, during which he can unwind and just do what they want.

Grade 3: Socialization begins to take center stage. Team sports are a good choice. Motor skills, painting, drawing etc are becoming good also. Let the child explore areas of interest. But put aside enough time for family and fun activities.

Grade 4: At this age, the child will tell you what he likes. He needs to get involved in activities that will boost their confidence. This will also help you manage stress as this is the time when social pressure is beginning to build. But beware of the devil in the preparation. Your child needs more time to their studies. Balancing his schoolwork with other activities is very important.

Grade 5: The fifth grader is bubbling with energy and wants to do just about everything. But she or he can conveniently push depth studies. Thus, close supervision is necessary. Keep one or two days off for family time and other activities. Now is a great time to get your child interested in community service.

Middle school: direct it away from the TV. Get it hired to activities that reinforce learning. The academic performance can be improved by encouraging your preteen to join clubs like the explorers program, language clubs, chess girl’s / boy’s bangs etc. As a rule of thumb, 16-20 hours per week of additional activity should be more than enough. But look out for signs of sunburn.

What you choose for your child and how long he should work on it is decided mainly by the child’s temperament as a parent, you should observe your child closely and base their decisions on the regeneration of the child itself.

TIPS FOR THE SAFETY OF KIDS (2)

Friday, May 1st, 2009

What we should NOT do?
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1, Never shake the baby, it can cause damage to the brain.

2,Don’t keep any small articles near the baby .   

3,Sharp pointed articles like pen, pencil, ect should not be given to kids.

4,Avoid entry of water in to the ear while giving a bath.

5,Food should not be given forcibly when the baby is crying or coughing continuously.

6,Should not overfeed the baby.

7,Articles like mosquito repellents ,moth balls,ink,gum,medicines,ect should be kept away.

8,Avoid tight cloathings.

9,Should not be placed near the edge of the bed.

10,Should not give the baby to strangers and avoid close contact with others.

11,All electrical instruments should be kept away,and bed should not be arranged near electrical sockets and wires.

12,Kitchen is a dangerous place for children.Don’t keep them alone in the kitchen.

13,Water level in the bath tub should be minimum and don’t go for any other works(to attent phone call or calling bell ect) when the  baby is in the tub. 

14,Avoid smoking inside the house.

15,Should not allow pet animals to be in very close contact with the kids.(anti rabies injections should be given to pets and cut their nails properly)

16,When the child starts walking should not be kept alone on the upstairs and should not allow them to climb the steps.

17,Strong light should be avoided in the room. 

18,When you are travelling don’t give the food articles given by co passengers.

19,Baby should not be allowed to crawl on the soil.

20,If you are sick or someone else is sick be away from the kids.

21,Dont take the baby to hospital wards,crowded market places and polluted dusty areas.

22,Table lamp should not be kept near the kids,this will attract insects at night and cause problems.

23,Others medicine should not be given to the children. 

24,Medicine which has crossed the expiery date should not be used.

What we should do?..